How to stop your divorce? If your spouse is leaving the house or has mentioned, “I still love you but I don’t feel in love with you anymore” or “I want a divorce”, you may feel hopeless as it seems like there is no way you can stop the divorce.
This is especially true if you never saw it coming. However, the truth is, there is no marriage that cannot be saved even if your partner doesn’t seem to be doing anything and you are the only one trying to save the marriage.
Most probably, there are a number of urgent questions that you would like to ask. Some time ago, I found a number of videos that specifically answer some of the most commonly asked questions about saving a marriage. I believe these videos will be able to answer many of the questions you are having in your mind.
You may want to watch those videos by clicking on the link below.
Getting a divorce is definitely one of the most important decisions you can make in your life and you should think twice. Regardless of how you feel, don’t just let emotions drive you to a divorce.
It is important to learn how to talk calmly. If anger is constantly getting the better of you, causing both of you to yell at each other, the situation is only going to become worse. If you are serious about saving your marriage, you must learn to have a meaningful conversation without allowing negative emotions to take over.
Hurt, anger, confusion, depression and other negative emotions are probably affecting you right now. But unless you are willing to put those feelings aside, you may never discover what has caused
your spouse to initiate the divorce.
If she agrees to talk and you are serious about dealing with any issues and saving your marriage, here are some tips that may be helpful:
1) Good communication is a key to every healthy relationship. It is even more important if you are trying to save your marriage. Your spouse will not file for divorce without any reason. If you do not know what the reason is, you will have to find out why. The only way to do so is by having a calm conversation. No name calling, accusations or yelling.
2) As mentioned above, don’t yell. Regardless of what you are thinking and how you feel, the yelling approach is not going to stop the divorce and will only confirm your spouse decision.
3) It is certainly not easy to stop the divorce from occurring once your spouse has filed for it. What you can do now is to persuade your spouse not to continue the proceedings that she has started. Do not point fingers at anyone as this is not going to do anyone any good. If you want to save your marriage, you need to take an honest look at what the issues are with your marriage and then tell her that you understand. Think about what you can do to improve the situation. Show that you are committed to work on your marriage and improve it.
4) If lack of quality time spent together is the main issue, then you should promise to spend more time with your spouse. Most importantly, you need to keep your promise and be committed. Nothing is more important than regularly taking the time to do things together. It will be best if it is something that both of you enjoy.
If you have tried everything and nothing seems to work, you may want to consider marriage counseling to save your marriage.