Can you be friends after a break up? Is there this possibility?
There appear to be several schools of thought regarding this topic. Some people tell you of course you can. Others claim no you can’t.
Some people are convinced that you can win back your ex simply by remaining as friends. Some believe you may lose him or her forever once you fall deep into the friend zone.
So who’s right? And who’s wrong?
Well, here is my opinion. I may be right. I may be wrong. Sometimes, you’ll have to act according to your own situation.
Before we carry on, I urge you to ask yourself this question. Please be honest to yourself.
Why? Why? Why?
Why do you still desire to be friends after breaking up?
You know what?
For most people, that’s not what they really want.
They actually want to be more than friends. They want to get back together with their ex again.
‘Being friends’ is usually an excuse.
Most likely, there exists an element of you that still wish him or her back again. You may tell yourself that you only plan to remain as friends with your ex. But you probably wish that eventually, they will want you back again.
Therefore, can you be friends after a break up?
Well, the short answer is yes and no.
You can be TRUE friends after a split. But only when you have genuinely gotten over the separation.
True friends should be sincere towards each other. Can you be a true friend?
If your ex boyfriend or girlfriend has already moved on and is starting a new relationship, are you able to feel happy for them? Or will you be jealous? Will you feel the pain?
In the event you will feel jealous and hurt, you are not ready to become friends with your ex yet.
If you continue to stay as ‘friend’, you can hurt yourself even more. Your current expectation may be that be he/she will return to you one day. Unfortunately, if your expectation didn’t turn out to be what you want, your will feel very frustrated.
This pent up of emotions could ultimately be expressed through your interaction with your ex in one way or another. When such a thing happens, your friendship with him/her will certainly be at risk.
Without a doubt, you can still pretend to stay as friends but your boyfriend or girlfriend is likely to see through it.
So what should you do?
Well, here are two things you can do.
The first is to learn how to win your ex back. The second option is to learn to get over him or her. To remain true friends with your ex, it is best to get over them.